How Do I Get this Baby to Sleep?

How Do I Get this Baby to Sleep?

Did you know sleep is a learned skill?

Some children will learn this skill relatively quickly and easily. But many others will need a lot of help with this. Temperament has a lot to do with how a child sleeps. What I can help you figure out is how to establish healthy patterns and routines to encourage the best sleep possible.

Chiropractic Care for Pregnancy, Infants & Kids

Chiropractic Care for Pregnancy, Infants & Kids

As a Mom and a chiropractor, I understand the importance of helping our children live healthier lives. Since I am currently pregnant with our second child I also understand the importance of receiving regular chiropractic care throughout pregnancy. Although there are a variety of areas that can be addressed which ultimately help everyone to be healthier, the one I am going focus on is chiropractic care and the function of the nervous system. Pregnant women and parents alike are looking for alternative ways to improve the health of their unborn child and/or children without resorting to unnecessary drugs or surgery.

I Diaper Tulsa

I Diaper Tulsa

September 24, 10am-2pm, Lifetime Fitness South Tulsa

To whom much is given, much is required.

That's the backbone of the I Diaper Tulsa diaper drive and fundraiser for Emergency Infant Services.

Tulsa Family Doulas had a great first year, and as we are inching closer to our second anniversary, it was time to step it up a notch.

September Placenta Encapsulation Special

September Placenta Encapsulation Special

Labor day weekend is past, pools are closed, school has started and summer is officially over. Even if fall equinox isn't technically here yet - details, people!

Sigh.

I feel you.

BUT! We do have an exciting special for you as you are planning out the rest of your pregnancy or even pre-planning prior to pregnancy (we will work with you too!).

Birth and New Mom Affirmations - Free Printables

Birth and New Mom Affirmations - Free Printables

We want to shout from the mountaintops about how amazing women are!

There is so much negativity and fear that is unnecessarily forced onto pregnant women about their bodies and their babies. And we want to do our part to help change the words in your mind.

One of the ways we can do this is to provide you with these free birth and new mom affirmations. 10 AFFIRMATIONS EACH! SO 10 FOR LABOR AND 10 TO ENCOURAGE ANY MOM THROUGH THE TASKS OF BEING A NEW MOM.

Sometimes the hardest stories to tell are the most important to hear.

Sometimes the hardest stories to tell are the most important to hear.

I was approached some time ago about a story. A really dramatic, hard to hear story. I sat with it a while, honored to have been chosen to hold her story with her and thinking about the impact that her words had on me. 

Then I thought about the impact that it could have on you. How much strength do you have in your intuition, in knowing and understanding your body's needs and your baby's? 

Our whole purpose at Tulsa Family Doulas is to increase confidence in birth and in parenting for every family we serve, and we do that by providing tangible support and skills through every service we offer. 

And we tell stories like this, because they are important to read. She has given full permission, but requested anonymity. 

Butter and Postpartum Recovery - Going Back to Nature!

Butter and Postpartum Recovery - Going Back to Nature!

to Nature!

Written by Kelley MatherPostpartum Doula Extraordinaire

Did you ever randomly run across some little life hack that changed everything? Okay, so maybe that’s a little dramatic, but seriously…

The Beauty of Butter

I like butter – I mean who doesn’t? There is a point at which butter is the perfect temperature. Unfortunately, that spreadable, toast worthy place of deliciousness is hard to reach. 

What's the connection between butter and babies?

So what is this diatribe to butter doing on a blog dedicated to all things birth-y and doula-y (these should seriously be words, am I right?) Sometimes the best solutions are simple, everyday things that are right under our noses and rooted in the past ways of doing things. 

So, you're a Birth Doula. Is that like a Midwife?

So, you're a Birth Doula. Is that like a Midwife?

By asking that, are you asking if I am desperately passionate about the care that women receive during pregnancy and after delivery?

Then yes, I am exactly like a midwife. 

But no, I'm not at all. We have totally different jobs.

There are a few misconceptions about our place in the delivery room, and many doulas have taken the opportunity to explore in depth. Here are a couple stereotypes that I am going to completely debunk.

Doulas Give Advice on Medical Care 

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When someone chooses to work with a midwife, then they are choosing her care in the place of a doctor. Both midwife and doctor fill the same role in being a lifeguard to the health and safety of the mom and baby, they just provide different models of maternity care. Just like the doctor would, the midwife will be the one to monitor the baby and mom throughout the pregnancy and delivery to assure a healthy birth. Midwives work in a hospital environment, in a birth center and can attend births in their client's home. 

A doula's sole job is to provide a calm, educated, stable and confident presence for her clients. We may be witness to many medical procedures, but are not participatory in anything medical. We are well-versed in the normalcy for both home and hospital births, and can help a client discover and explore options in both locations, but we never give medical advice. 

Our only input on medical advice is, "How do you feel about that option, choice, procedure, opinion? Would you like some more information on the risks, benefits and alternatives? How can I support you through this decision?"

Doulas Only Support Natural Home Birth

Many, many times most people assume that because I am a doula and own an agency filled with other doulas, that we are spending most of our time attending natural home births. Natural home births are beautiful, but really, so is every other birth, and each one is deserving of compassionate and unbiased support.

Since we are hired by the client, we will follow them wherever they choose to give birth. 

  • We love supporting moms through a natural home birth. 
  • Our doulas adore supporting families through an unmedicated hospital birth.
  • The care we provide is perfect during the placement of an epidural and helping everyone stay connected throughout the rest of labor.
  • We provide valuable, educated, calm and confident support during a planned or unplanned cesarean.  

How you feel about and experience your birth is important to us. We will maintain a remarkable emotional and physical connection to you throughout your pregnancy, birth and even postpartum. We deeply care about our clients and their experiences. 

But we aren't connected to your medical decisions.

Do you see the difference? It doesn't matter to us if you choose interventions, change your birth plan mid-birth, plan for an epidural from the beginning or elect to bring your baby into the world via cesarean. All the stats of doulas reducing intervention don't mean anything if you feel you need that intervention. 

If you previously thought a doula and a midwife were the same, or you never knew that a doula would hold your hand during an epidural, then you need to sit down with one of our teams of doulas for a complimentary consultation. I promise we are the perfect addition to the birth you plan however that looks. 

Why do you want a postpartum doula?

Why do you want a postpartum doula?

If I could have you be a fly on the wall in our postpartum clients house, it would make this description so much easier. 

How do you describe in mere words what we do when we enter the home of a mom that just had a baby? I can tell you we help her sleep, eat and breathe. I can tell you we listen, provide reassurance and perspective. We hold, cuddle and adore. But, it's more. 

The Tulsa Family Doulas Difference

The Tulsa Family Doulas Difference

The growth in the popularity and presence of doulas in Tulsa has been astounding lately. More people are realizing the positive benefits for continuous, compassionate care before pregnancy, during birth and after delivery. Serious studies show the benefit to having doula support, and many women find the increased satisfaction of having that continuous, unbiased support well worth the investment. 

The process of finding a doula may seem like it would be quite daunting, but it really doesn't have to be. Tulsa Family Doulas eases the process by taking care of a couple of really important steps for you ahead of time. 

Growing a Baby: Part 5 Heading to the Hospital

Growing a Baby: Part 5 Heading to the Hospital

So, you've made it to the end of the pregnancy! Now it's just a waiting game on when you will be able to meet your baby. And there are probably a thousand questions flowing through your mind about what it will be like to actually be like to bring your baby on to this side of the world.

Let's talk about some of those questions. 

Growing a Baby: Part 4 Third Trimester

Growing a Baby: Part 4 Third Trimester

So close! You're more than halfway done, and the end is in sight even though it probably doesn't feel like it yet. You probably even have a name picked out for your little one, and if you don't, no rush. Sometimes it helps to meet the baby first. Aaah! You're having a baby!

You're probably feeling like the time so far has flown by and has taken forever all at the same time.

Welcome to the time when you'll finally start to understand why everyone says the days are long but the years are short. 

If only there were short lines in the bathrooms, however. Third trimester bladder here, people!

Growing a Baby: Part 3 Second Trimester

Growing a Baby: Part 3 Second Trimester

Second trimester! Hopefully, you have some more energy and are feeling a little more up to the task of planning out the rest of your pregnancy and birth.  And there seems to be an ever-growing list of things to plan.

Are you enjoying your pregnancy? Feeling a little anxiety? Wondering how time can move so slowly and so quickly all at once?  

We get it! That's why we are here. Every service we offer provides tangible ways to increase your confidence in birth and in parenting. 

Check out some of our best recommendations to enjoy your second trimester below including planning ahead for some awesome gender reveal party ideas!

Growing a Baby: Part 2 First Trimester

Growing a Baby: Part 2 First Trimester

Awesome feeling, isn't it? Knowing a baby is growing inside of you? Have you caught yourself with a small grin on your face yet just thinking about what the rest of your pregnancy will be like? What it will feel like to go through birth? Meet your baby? Boy? Girl? TWINS? Aaahh!

Growing a Baby: Part 1 Early Pregnancy

Growing a Baby: Part 1 Early Pregnancy

You've slipped away to the bathroom and nervously opened the box, read the directions, held that crazy stick and probably got a little splattered with your own urine while silently counting the 3 seconds you are supposed to hold it, pointed down, in the stream. You placed the lid on the test and set it down on a level surface. 

Maybe you couldn't bear watching the test and simply had to set a timer and walk away. Or maybe you stared, unblinkingly, while you were awaiting the result. Anxious, apprehensive, relieved, hopeful or frightened. There was no one right feeling.

But there were most definitely two lines.

Best Nipple Lubricant for Breastfeeding

Best Nipple Lubricant for Breastfeeding

There are some common sayings many of us are told by well-meaning friends, family, and even strangers. And for those planning on breastfeeding it can be confusing. 

“Your nipples are going to be so sore! Be sure to use Lanolin weeks before the baby arrives.” 
“Ouch, your nipples are looking pink. Slather some nipple butter on them.” 
“After every feed use *this* for your nipples, it prevents the soreness.”

Should I use Lansinoh HPA Lanolin, Earth Mama Nipple Butter, Medela Tender Care Lanolin? As you search you find more and more options from lanolin, lanolin-free, organic to non-GMO. Some people are even told to utilize non-evidence based method like wet tea bags or creams. So where can you find the best lubricant for your nipples?

Safe Sleep: It's Life or Death

Safe Sleep: It's Life or Death

Full disclosure here. I was one of the those moms that would bring my babies in from the car and leave them sleeping in their car seat because I was desperate for them to sleep well. It wasn't as talked about 10, 9 and 6 years ago; maybe mentioned once on one website that was glazed over in passing.

The car seat isn't a safe option for somewhere place a baby to sleep. 

This video isn't just about day care workers, but serves as a reminder for postpartum doulas, aunts, grandparents, older siblings and anyone who has the opportunity to be the one watching over the littles while they sleep.