We register for so many other things: wedding showers, baby showers - so why not register for a doula? Choosing to have a doula during your birth and the early postpartum period is truly a choice that cannot be quantified. Women who have had doulas report more satisfaction during their births and more confidence in their parenting. How can you really put a price tag on that? If you're willing to ask your friends and family to contribute to your crib, stroller, diapers, wipes and breast pump (which are all necessities to most of us), why wouldn't you ask them to contribute to the necessary luxury of having a compassionate and knowledgeable professional to support you during one of the most vulnerable and life-changing times in your life?
Not enough. Never enough.
I started drinking in as much birth education as I could right before and after my last child was born and attended my first birth less than 4 months after he was born in 2009. I didn't even know what a doula was until after he was born, but I immediately knew that I needed to become one and be able to tell women what it felt like to be empowered and confident when giving birth.
And then, the drive to receive all my initials began.
I attended my first birth when I was 4 years old. Of course all I remember is being told by my Aunt Selena to stay up against the wall and out of the way while my mom gave birth to my little brother. My next experience in the labor and delivery room was when I was 10 years old and my 3rd brother was on his way. I got to see EVERYTHING! I mean EVERYTHING! It was definitely an educational experience for me and so were the next 2 siblings, 1 nephew, best friends’ kids and my own 2 children.
Good grief you’re exhausted. So exhausted. You haven’t seen your feet in a while now—why? Because you’re too exhausted to keep going to the gym! You ache. Could be the exhaustion (yup, again) but it could also be from all the changes. So many changes. At least the crib got built…finally. Most food doesn’t sound very appetizing right now. Nerves. Wow—so much is coming so soon. I hope she’s ready.
(Cue the sound of a needle scratching across a record…)
A CYCLING DOULA'S OBSERVATIONS FROM LIFE ON THE TRAIL
Last month, a major item was marked off my bucket list when I rode in the Louisiana MS 150. This is a two day, 150 mile bike ride that raises funds for Multiple Sclerosis. Preparing for this event required me to ride my bike ... a lot! I rode in the heat, I rode in the rain, I rode on trails and roads in towns in every direction around Tulsa. I met some amazing new people, saw some incredible wildlife (minus the tarantula somewhere in Bixby, OK!)
I have a small "farm" in Northeast Oklahoma where we raise rabbits, chickens, pigs, and sometimes a garden. Since I have started raising rabbits, I have noticed something very interesting. First time mama rabbits have about a 50-50 chance of losing their entire first litter when they are put in cages separately. Some mamas simply don't build their nest in time, some mamas build a nest but don't feed their babies, some mamas will step on the babies accidentally crushing them. But I have been reading a lot about a different method of rabbitry; colony style.
Every single list of suggested items for a baby registry includes it: a wipe warmer. In fact, it’s usually in the list of “Top Sellers” as well as “Top Recommended.” It’s just expensive enough that the typical new mother sees it as a luxury that she wouldn’t purchase on her own, but it’s elusive enough that she definitely wants it, and is thrilled if a friend or family member brings it to her baby shower.