Postpartum Doulas

Happy 3rd Birthday, Tulsa Family Doulas!

Happy 3rd Birthday, Tulsa Family Doulas!

Where do I start? How do I even say everything I want to say? This year has been amazing, to say the least. We topped well over 1,000 in-home postpartum hours and are still going, more birth clients than ever, so many lactation clients that are still going strong breastfeeding after their consults, happy placenta clients, belly bindings and so many classes. My goals for the agency were met this year and I couldn't have done it without the amazing women in the agency and all of our beautiful clients!

We are pleased to see the babies of our clients grow, and the confidence in their mamas blossom. Every client we serve reminds us of and reinforces our mission:

"To increase confidence in birth and in parenting for every client we serve."

So to celebrate, we want to lavish some gifts on YOU! Our business BOOMED this year because of referrals from our clients and care providers. So, it would only make sense to let those that refer receive some love.

Each of the following specials runs now through December 15, 2017. So figure out how many you can sign up for and best wishes on your beautiful gifts!

New Your Baby Experience and Your Breastfeeding Experience Classes for Tulsa Community

New Your Baby Experience and Your Breastfeeding Experience Classes for Tulsa Community

What a great week! There were 9 of us at the first ever YB Doula Training Retreat and y'all, it was more than amazing. I've done a whole heck of a lot of trainings for doulas and this has been my favorite one thus far and it gave us more to give to you, our wonderful Tulsa Community! 

This training was coordinated by Missy Boudiette, owner and found of the incredibly successful Your Birth Experience curriculum.

Now Accepting Applications for Birth and Postpartum Doulas

Now Accepting Applications for Birth and Postpartum Doulas

I am thrilled to announce that Tulsa Family Doulas is officially accepting applications for Birth and Postpartum Doulas for contract work with the agency!

This agency is my heart and soul and has been nurtured, fed, loved, grown and is now again spreading its wings as I open the doors for more work for Birth and Postpartum Doulas.

Do I need a night nanny, baby nurse or postpartum doula to help with my newborn?

Do I need a night nanny, baby nurse or postpartum doula to help with my newborn?

It was only a couple years ago that postpartum doulas started becoming consistently more common in Tulsa. For the most part, doulas were associated with helping women in pregnancy and birth have a positive experience through education and support. Now, the term doula encompasses so much more than simply birth support, and extends to going into the family's home and helping the entire family adjust to life with a newborn.

In these last few months, Tulsa Family Doulas has been hired for, completed or will complete soon 842 hours of in-home postpartum doula support. That means for all of those blissful hours, the entire family is well-cared for. Postpartum doulas are trained to not only assist with basic newborn care, but to help ease the whole family into their new roles with the new baby.

How do I find reliable childcare when I have to go back to work?

How do I find reliable childcare when I have to go back to work?

The thought of going back to work after having a baby can bring up a whole mess of emotions for many new moms. Until our employers, and heck, our country, can figure out how to promote exceptional maternity leave, the reality is that going back to work and leaving your baby with someone that isn't you is all to real.

One of Tulsa Family Doulas' most popular services is postpartum doula support where we provide certified support for the new mom during the vulnerable transition to life with a newborn with daytime, overnight and live-in care when family may not be nearby to provide help.

Many times, when our postpartum doula work is beginning to end, we will help transition the family to working with a childcare provider, most often a nanny. Our favorite nanny agency is E-Nanny and the owner, Erika Slade, is incredibly passionate about providing exceptional nannies for her clients.

Happy 2nd Birthday, Tulsa Family Doulas!

Happy 2nd Birthday, Tulsa Family Doulas!

There has been so much growth and changes these last two years and I couldn't have done any of this without the fantastic women in the agency and our clients!

We are pleased to see the babies of our clients grow, and the confidence in their mamas blossom. Every client we serve reminds us of and reinforces our mission:

"To increase confidence in birth and in parenting for every client we serve."

So to celebrate, we want to lavish some gifts on YOU! Our business grows steadily because of referrals from our clients and care providers. So, it would only make sense to let those that refer receive some love.

Each of the following specials runs now through December 5, 2016. So figure out how many you can sign up for and best wishes on your beautiful gifts!

Birth and New Mom Affirmations - Free Printables

Birth and New Mom Affirmations - Free Printables

We want to shout from the mountaintops about how amazing women are!

There is so much negativity and fear that is unnecessarily forced onto pregnant women about their bodies and their babies. And we want to do our part to help change the words in your mind.

One of the ways we can do this is to provide you with these free birth and new mom affirmations. 10 AFFIRMATIONS EACH! SO 10 FOR LABOR AND 10 TO ENCOURAGE ANY MOM THROUGH THE TASKS OF BEING A NEW MOM.

Sometimes the hardest stories to tell are the most important to hear.

Sometimes the hardest stories to tell are the most important to hear.

I was approached some time ago about a story. A really dramatic, hard to hear story. I sat with it a while, honored to have been chosen to hold her story with her and thinking about the impact that her words had on me. 

Then I thought about the impact that it could have on you. How much strength do you have in your intuition, in knowing and understanding your body's needs and your baby's? 

Our whole purpose at Tulsa Family Doulas is to increase confidence in birth and in parenting for every family we serve, and we do that by providing tangible support and skills through every service we offer. 

And we tell stories like this, because they are important to read. She has given full permission, but requested anonymity. 

Butter and Postpartum Recovery - Going Back to Nature!

Butter and Postpartum Recovery - Going Back to Nature!

to Nature!

Written by Kelley MatherPostpartum Doula Extraordinaire

Did you ever randomly run across some little life hack that changed everything? Okay, so maybe that’s a little dramatic, but seriously…

The Beauty of Butter

I like butter – I mean who doesn’t? There is a point at which butter is the perfect temperature. Unfortunately, that spreadable, toast worthy place of deliciousness is hard to reach. 

What's the connection between butter and babies?

So what is this diatribe to butter doing on a blog dedicated to all things birth-y and doula-y (these should seriously be words, am I right?) Sometimes the best solutions are simple, everyday things that are right under our noses and rooted in the past ways of doing things. 

Why do you want a postpartum doula?

Why do you want a postpartum doula?

If I could have you be a fly on the wall in our postpartum clients house, it would make this description so much easier. 

How do you describe in mere words what we do when we enter the home of a mom that just had a baby? I can tell you we help her sleep, eat and breathe. I can tell you we listen, provide reassurance and perspective. We hold, cuddle and adore. But, it's more. 

The Tulsa Family Doulas Difference

The Tulsa Family Doulas Difference

The growth in the popularity and presence of doulas in Tulsa has been astounding lately. More people are realizing the positive benefits for continuous, compassionate care before pregnancy, during birth and after delivery. Serious studies show the benefit to having doula support, and many women find the increased satisfaction of having that continuous, unbiased support well worth the investment. 

The process of finding a doula may seem like it would be quite daunting, but it really doesn't have to be. Tulsa Family Doulas eases the process by taking care of a couple of really important steps for you ahead of time. 

Safe Sleep: It's Life or Death

Safe Sleep: It's Life or Death

Full disclosure here. I was one of the those moms that would bring my babies in from the car and leave them sleeping in their car seat because I was desperate for them to sleep well. It wasn't as talked about 10, 9 and 6 years ago; maybe mentioned once on one website that was glazed over in passing.

The car seat isn't a safe option for somewhere place a baby to sleep. 

This video isn't just about day care workers, but serves as a reminder for postpartum doulas, aunts, grandparents, older siblings and anyone who has the opportunity to be the one watching over the littles while they sleep. 

How will you spend your time with your newborn?

How will you spend your time with your newborn?

As much as people want to focus on the surreal and ethereal part of bringing a baby into the world, the time spent in the most delicate stages, emotionally and physically, with your newborn can bring on a fog like no other. So, how are you going to plan now to make the most of your time with your new baby?

First of all let's all acknowledge something here. 

YOU GREW A HUMAN INSIDE YOUR BODY! A whole human. 

Sit with that a minute. 

Your body is crazy amazing. YOU are crazy amazing!

What Lenny Kravitz’s Leather Pants and My Boobs Have in Common

What Lenny Kravitz’s Leather Pants and My Boobs Have in Common

It’s not actually as scandalous as you’d think.  You see, his pants failed to do their job properly and so did my boobs...

Tulsa's Newest New Mom Must Have

Tulsa's Newest New Mom Must Have

Let's talk real for a bit. Being a new mom is hard. Pull your hair out, oh my gosh, I can't believe I did this, hard. You mutter words under your breath at 3AM after you had only laid your head back down on the pillow at 2:25AM. And then you take another look at your sweet baby and get all gushy again. 

The scariest depiction of zombie movies and video games have nothing on you as you stumble to the kitchen in the mornings mumbling, "Booooobs, Poooooop, Coooooofffeeee." 

Is your doctor an OB or an SOB?

Is your doctor an OB or an SOB?

Sadly, many people in the birth world perpetuate the thought that obstetricians are out to get you and sabotage your birth experience. It is not unheard of for some doulas to say things that make people distrust their doctors. “He’s just lazy." “She doesn’t care about your birth plan." “He is old and controlling.” 

How do I leave without you? I want to know...

How do I leave without you? I want to know...

I did all I could to make it to the car without breaking down. I fumbled with my keys and held my breath just long enough to open the door, get in and close it before collapsing on the steering wheel in a heap of sobs. I felt as if I couldn't breathe thinking about what stood behind me. I didn't look back as I pulled out of the parking space, out of the parking lot, put on my blinker and sped away, frantically wiping tears from my blurred line of vision. 

A Doula's Grief

A Doula's Grief

There is a commonality in the profession of doula (professional birth and postpartum support) that stems from an enormous amount of compassion for a pregnant, birthing and new mom. Many stories of how one became a professional doula entail joy, excitement, sorrow and even anger. But, the reason we stay in this incredibly demanding job is because we understand the value of having someone provide a constant stream of physical, emotional and educational care during such major transitions in life.

Does Postpartum Belly Binding really work?

Does Postpartum Belly Binding really work?

Any woman who has given birth can tell you that the feeling of a squishy belly after several months of a taught firm belly feels a little weird. All of those months of your baby and uterus growing, your skin stretching, and your hips widening takes a toll on your body. Those first few days postpartum are something to get used to. We don’t have the same balance, as now we don’t have the extra weight pulling us forward. We don’t sleep in the same positions because now that baby isn’t in the way but we can’t go back to our pre pregnancy positions either because the uterus still needs to shrink down. Something we don’t often think about though is the baby, uterus, skin, and hips aren’t the only parts undergoing a transformation. The muscles are also equally affected. The great news is, belly binding can help! 

Have you set up your doula registry?

We register for so many other things: wedding showers, baby showers - so why not register for a doula? Choosing to have a doula during your birth and the early postpartum period is truly a choice that cannot be quantified. Women who have had doulas report more satisfaction during their births and more confidence in their parenting. How can you really put a price tag on that? If you're willing to ask your friends and family to contribute to your crib, stroller, diapers, wipes and breast pump (which are all necessities to most of us), why wouldn't you ask them to contribute to the necessary luxury of having a compassionate and knowledgeable professional to support you during one of the most vulnerable and life-changing times in your life?