Is your little one about to be promoted to a Big Sibling? Come to Pottery Barn Kids Utica Square this Saturday, March 24 from 11am-3pm and join in on one of three FREE sibling classes.
The wealth of knowledge from your birth and postpartum doulas is almost limitless. This is a copy of a group text string between a client and her two doulas. Sidebar - yep, two. Any time you hire doulas from Tulsa Family Doulas, you get two. Twice the support, twice the experience, twice the information. These doulas immediately go on call for you. We don't wait until 36 or 38 weeks to go on call. Whomever is on call is the doula that attends your birth and then comes back to your home for the two postpartum visits including 4 hours of complimentary postpartum doula support. Sounds lovely doesn't it? It really is.
Okay, back to the reason for this blog - 6 week old babies, 6 week old mamas and sleeeeeeep.
Thanks to the somewhat overwhelming and abundant information found in places like the beloved and dreaded Google, BabyCenter, pregnancy.com (seriously, those week by week images are addicting!) and WebMD, you have the world at your fingertips. You can search for anything pregnancy and birth related and receive thousands of opinions, perspectives, rants and claims. But, it's the Internet, and no one can put anything on the Internet if it isn't true, right?
At Tulsa Family Doulas, we know every birth can be good. Your birth can be good. Every birth is normal and natural. If you tell us you want a natural birth or a normal birth, we will ask what that means to you, help you prepare for your vision of a "good birth," and support you every step of the way.
Sadly, many people in the birth world perpetuate the thought that obstetricians are out to get you and sabotage your birth experience. It is not unheard of for some doulas to say things that make people distrust their doctors. “He’s just lazy." “She doesn’t care about your birth plan." “He is old and controlling.”
When I saw a gorgeous henna crown adorning the bald head of my husband’s sweet cousin, I knew I had a new skill to learn! At age 25, Alexa began a battle against Hodgkins Lymphoma which required her to undergo chemotherapy. She valiantly faced down the disease and found a way to feel beautiful despite her hair loss.
I did all I could to make it to the car without breaking down. I fumbled with my keys and held my breath just long enough to open the door, get in and close it before collapsing on the steering wheel in a heap of sobs. I felt as if I couldn't breathe thinking about what stood behind me. I didn't look back as I pulled out of the parking space, out of the parking lot, put on my blinker and sped away, frantically wiping tears from my blurred line of vision.
There is a commonality in the profession of doula (professional birth and postpartum support) that stems from an enormous amount of compassion for a pregnant, birthing and new mom. Many stories of how one became a professional doula entail joy, excitement, sorrow and even anger. But, the reason we stay in this incredibly demanding job is because we understand the value of having someone provide a constant stream of physical, emotional and educational care during such major transitions in life.
We register for so many other things: wedding showers, baby showers - so why not register for a doula? Choosing to have a doula during your birth and the early postpartum period is truly a choice that cannot be quantified. Women who have had doulas report more satisfaction during their births and more confidence in their parenting. How can you really put a price tag on that? If you're willing to ask your friends and family to contribute to your crib, stroller, diapers, wipes and breast pump (which are all necessities to most of us), why wouldn't you ask them to contribute to the necessary luxury of having a compassionate and knowledgeable professional to support you during one of the most vulnerable and life-changing times in your life?
Not enough. Never enough.
I started drinking in as much birth education as I could right before and after my last child was born and attended my first birth less than 4 months after he was born in 2009. I didn't even know what a doula was until after he was born, but I immediately knew that I needed to become one and be able to tell women what it felt like to be empowered and confident when giving birth.
And then, the drive to receive all my initials began.
Good grief you’re exhausted. So exhausted. You haven’t seen your feet in a while now—why? Because you’re too exhausted to keep going to the gym! You ache. Could be the exhaustion (yup, again) but it could also be from all the changes. So many changes. At least the crib got built…finally. Most food doesn’t sound very appetizing right now. Nerves. Wow—so much is coming so soon. I hope she’s ready.
(Cue the sound of a needle scratching across a record…)
Last month, a major item was marked off my bucket list when I rode in the Louisiana MS 150. This is a two day, 150 mile bike ride that raises funds for Multiple Sclerosis. Preparing for this event required me to ride my bike ... a lot! I rode in the heat, I rode in the rain, I rode on trails and roads in towns in every direction around Tulsa. I met some amazing new people, saw some incredible wildlife (minus the tarantula somewhere in Bixby, OK!)
Every single list of suggested items for a baby registry includes it: a wipe warmer. In fact, it’s usually in the list of “Top Sellers” as well as “Top Recommended.” It’s just expensive enough that the typical new mother sees it as a luxury that she wouldn’t purchase on her own, but it’s elusive enough that she definitely wants it, and is thrilled if a friend or family member brings it to her baby shower.