Birth Doulas

New Director of Tulsa Family Doulas

New Director of Tulsa Family Doulas

You know those events or conversations that become a defining moment and you can look back on them and pinpoint the exact instant a decision was made, your life changed and you absolutely KNEW what you needed to do next? I've had a couple of those and I want to tell you some sweet stories about them. 

Free Sibling Class this Saturday

Free Sibling Class this Saturday

Is your little one about to be promoted to a Big Sibling? Come to Pottery Barn Kids Utica Square this Saturday, March 24 from 11am-3pm and join in on one of three FREE sibling classes. 

  • 11:20am-12:00pm
  • 12:20pm-1:00pm
  • 1:20-2:00pm

Sleep Issues for a 6 Week Old Baby

Sleep Issues for a 6 Week Old Baby

The wealth of knowledge from your birth and postpartum doulas is almost limitless. This is a copy of a group text string between a client and her two doulas. Sidebar - yep, two. Any time you hire doulas from Tulsa Family Doulas, you get two. Twice the support, twice the experience, twice the information. These doulas immediately go on call for you. We don't wait until 36 or 38 weeks to go on call. Whomever is on call is the doula that attends your birth and then comes back to your home for the two postpartum visits including 4 hours of complimentary postpartum doula support. Sounds lovely doesn't it? It really is.

Okay, back to the reason for this blog - 6 week old babies, 6 week old mamas and sleeeeeeep.

Happy 3rd Birthday, Tulsa Family Doulas!

Happy 3rd Birthday, Tulsa Family Doulas!

Where do I start? How do I even say everything I want to say? This year has been amazing, to say the least. We topped well over 1,000 in-home postpartum hours and are still going, more birth clients than ever, so many lactation clients that are still going strong breastfeeding after their consults, happy placenta clients, belly bindings and so many classes. My goals for the agency were met this year and I couldn't have done it without the amazing women in the agency and all of our beautiful clients!

We are pleased to see the babies of our clients grow, and the confidence in their mamas blossom. Every client we serve reminds us of and reinforces our mission:

"To increase confidence in birth and in parenting for every client we serve."

So to celebrate, we want to lavish some gifts on YOU! Our business BOOMED this year because of referrals from our clients and care providers. So, it would only make sense to let those that refer receive some love.

Each of the following specials runs now through December 15, 2017. So figure out how many you can sign up for and best wishes on your beautiful gifts!

New Your Baby Experience and Your Breastfeeding Experience Classes for Tulsa Community

New Your Baby Experience and Your Breastfeeding Experience Classes for Tulsa Community

What a great week! There were 9 of us at the first ever YB Doula Training Retreat and y'all, it was more than amazing. I've done a whole heck of a lot of trainings for doulas and this has been my favorite one thus far and it gave us more to give to you, our wonderful Tulsa Community! 

This training was coordinated by Missy Boudiette, owner and found of the incredibly successful Your Birth Experience curriculum.

Now Accepting Applications for Birth and Postpartum Doulas

Now Accepting Applications for Birth and Postpartum Doulas

I am thrilled to announce that Tulsa Family Doulas is officially accepting applications for Birth and Postpartum Doulas for contract work with the agency!

This agency is my heart and soul and has been nurtured, fed, loved, grown and is now again spreading its wings as I open the doors for more work for Birth and Postpartum Doulas.

The Mystery of the Magical Doula Fairy Dust

The Mystery of the Magical Doula Fairy Dust

Every single doula out there wants to make sure you know about ACOG's (American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists) recent recommendation "Approaches for Ob-gyns and Maternity Care Providers to Limit Intervention During Labor and Birth in Low-Risk Pregnancies."

The beginning of the fifth paragraph of the article states that, "The recommendations also suggest that women benefit from continuous emotional support and the use of non-pharmacologic methods to manage pain. Support offered by trained labor coaches such as doulas has been associated with improved birth outcomes, including shortened labor and fewer operative deliveries."

Yes! Job security! Validation! The epitome of true collaborative care for our clients! Let's do a little shoulder shimmy, booty shake and high five on proving our effectiveness for our clients AND their care providers! Alright, keep your smile and work with me on what all this actually means. Because I don't know if it is just me, but after my grin sits there slapped silly on my face, it fades a little and my first reaction is to take a deep breath and whisper under my breath, "No pressure, Sarah."

Birth - The Best Run Ever

Birth - The Best Run Ever

Who here enjoys running? With as many running groups as there are in Tulsa, trails throughout town and even places like Turkey Mountain, there are some fantastic places to get in a short jog or a long, blissful run.

There is something about plodding through those first five minutes to get the kinks out and then finding your pace, focusing on your breathing and just letting your body move smoothly and naturally.

You then start to take in your surroundings, enjoy the feeling of blood pumping through your body, and feel your muscles being activated and challenged. If you listen to music while running, your brain finds the rhythm and your body starts to follow the beat. Well, I guess that all depends on your music choice, right?

Sounds to me a lot like what your body does in labor.

Happy 2nd Birthday, Tulsa Family Doulas!

Happy 2nd Birthday, Tulsa Family Doulas!

There has been so much growth and changes these last two years and I couldn't have done any of this without the fantastic women in the agency and our clients!

We are pleased to see the babies of our clients grow, and the confidence in their mamas blossom. Every client we serve reminds us of and reinforces our mission:

"To increase confidence in birth and in parenting for every client we serve."

So to celebrate, we want to lavish some gifts on YOU! Our business grows steadily because of referrals from our clients and care providers. So, it would only make sense to let those that refer receive some love.

Each of the following specials runs now through December 5, 2016. So figure out how many you can sign up for and best wishes on your beautiful gifts!

Birth and New Mom Affirmations - Free Printables

Birth and New Mom Affirmations - Free Printables

We want to shout from the mountaintops about how amazing women are!

There is so much negativity and fear that is unnecessarily forced onto pregnant women about their bodies and their babies. And we want to do our part to help change the words in your mind.

One of the ways we can do this is to provide you with these free birth and new mom affirmations. 10 AFFIRMATIONS EACH! SO 10 FOR LABOR AND 10 TO ENCOURAGE ANY MOM THROUGH THE TASKS OF BEING A NEW MOM.

Sometimes the hardest stories to tell are the most important to hear.

Sometimes the hardest stories to tell are the most important to hear.

I was approached some time ago about a story. A really dramatic, hard to hear story. I sat with it a while, honored to have been chosen to hold her story with her and thinking about the impact that her words had on me. 

Then I thought about the impact that it could have on you. How much strength do you have in your intuition, in knowing and understanding your body's needs and your baby's? 

Our whole purpose at Tulsa Family Doulas is to increase confidence in birth and in parenting for every family we serve, and we do that by providing tangible support and skills through every service we offer. 

And we tell stories like this, because they are important to read. She has given full permission, but requested anonymity. 

So, you're a Birth Doula. Is that like a Midwife?

So, you're a Birth Doula. Is that like a Midwife?

By asking that, are you asking if I am desperately passionate about the care that women receive during pregnancy and after delivery?

Then yes, I am exactly like a midwife. 

But no, I'm not at all. We have totally different jobs.

There are a few misconceptions about our place in the delivery room, and many doulas have taken the opportunity to explore in depth. Here are a couple stereotypes that I am going to completely debunk.

Doulas Give Advice on Medical Care 

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When someone chooses to work with a midwife, then they are choosing her care in the place of a doctor. Both midwife and doctor fill the same role in being a lifeguard to the health and safety of the mom and baby, they just provide different models of maternity care. Just like the doctor would, the midwife will be the one to monitor the baby and mom throughout the pregnancy and delivery to assure a healthy birth. Midwives work in a hospital environment, in a birth center and can attend births in their client's home. 

A doula's sole job is to provide a calm, educated, stable and confident presence for her clients. We may be witness to many medical procedures, but are not participatory in anything medical. We are well-versed in the normalcy for both home and hospital births, and can help a client discover and explore options in both locations, but we never give medical advice. 

Our only input on medical advice is, "How do you feel about that option, choice, procedure, opinion? Would you like some more information on the risks, benefits and alternatives? How can I support you through this decision?"

Doulas Only Support Natural Home Birth

Many, many times most people assume that because I am a doula and own an agency filled with other doulas, that we are spending most of our time attending natural home births. Natural home births are beautiful, but really, so is every other birth, and each one is deserving of compassionate and unbiased support.

Since we are hired by the client, we will follow them wherever they choose to give birth. 

  • We love supporting moms through a natural home birth. 
  • Our doulas adore supporting families through an unmedicated hospital birth.
  • The care we provide is perfect during the placement of an epidural and helping everyone stay connected throughout the rest of labor.
  • We provide valuable, educated, calm and confident support during a planned or unplanned cesarean.  

How you feel about and experience your birth is important to us. We will maintain a remarkable emotional and physical connection to you throughout your pregnancy, birth and even postpartum. We deeply care about our clients and their experiences. 

But we aren't connected to your medical decisions.

Do you see the difference? It doesn't matter to us if you choose interventions, change your birth plan mid-birth, plan for an epidural from the beginning or elect to bring your baby into the world via cesarean. All the stats of doulas reducing intervention don't mean anything if you feel you need that intervention. 

If you previously thought a doula and a midwife were the same, or you never knew that a doula would hold your hand during an epidural, then you need to sit down with one of our teams of doulas for a complimentary consultation. I promise we are the perfect addition to the birth you plan however that looks. 

The Tulsa Family Doulas Difference

The Tulsa Family Doulas Difference

The growth in the popularity and presence of doulas in Tulsa has been astounding lately. More people are realizing the positive benefits for continuous, compassionate care before pregnancy, during birth and after delivery. Serious studies show the benefit to having doula support, and many women find the increased satisfaction of having that continuous, unbiased support well worth the investment. 

The process of finding a doula may seem like it would be quite daunting, but it really doesn't have to be. Tulsa Family Doulas eases the process by taking care of a couple of really important steps for you ahead of time. 

Growing a Baby: Part 4 Third Trimester

Growing a Baby: Part 4 Third Trimester

So close! You're more than halfway done, and the end is in sight even though it probably doesn't feel like it yet. You probably even have a name picked out for your little one, and if you don't, no rush. Sometimes it helps to meet the baby first. Aaah! You're having a baby!

You're probably feeling like the time so far has flown by and has taken forever all at the same time.

Welcome to the time when you'll finally start to understand why everyone says the days are long but the years are short. 

If only there were short lines in the bathrooms, however. Third trimester bladder here, people!

Growing a Baby: Part 2 First Trimester

Growing a Baby: Part 2 First Trimester

Awesome feeling, isn't it? Knowing a baby is growing inside of you? Have you caught yourself with a small grin on your face yet just thinking about what the rest of your pregnancy will be like? What it will feel like to go through birth? Meet your baby? Boy? Girl? TWINS? Aaahh!

What Lenny Kravitz’s Leather Pants and My Boobs Have in Common

What Lenny Kravitz’s Leather Pants and My Boobs Have in Common

It’s not actually as scandalous as you’d think.  You see, his pants failed to do their job properly and so did my boobs...

Who is going to catch my baby?

Who is going to catch my baby?

Being an experienced professional that has been fully immersed in the birth field since 2009, one of the most common questions I get when talking with new clients, strangers and even my bank teller (I'm there often enough, she even recommended a client to me!) is who should they choose to catch their baby?

Every birth is normal and natural.

Every birth is normal and natural.

At Tulsa Family Doulas, we know every birth can be good. Your birth can be good. Every birth is normal and natural. If you tell us you want a natural birth or a normal birth, we will ask what that means to you, help you prepare for your vision of a "good birth," and support you every step of the way.

Is your doctor an OB or an SOB?

Is your doctor an OB or an SOB?

Sadly, many people in the birth world perpetuate the thought that obstetricians are out to get you and sabotage your birth experience. It is not unheard of for some doulas to say things that make people distrust their doctors. “He’s just lazy." “She doesn’t care about your birth plan." “He is old and controlling.” 

Born In the Wild - Just Like Animals

Born In the Wild - Just Like Animals

By now, I am sure you have heard all the previews for the reality show, Born In the Wild. Lifetime has done a great job of sensationalizing natural childbirth almost to the point of jaw-dropping vilification for mainstream America.

There is something captivating about childbirth. It is awe-inspiring to be participatory in watching a whole new person enter the world. Did you catch that and let it sink in? A whole new person. Woah.